By LORRIE WISEMAN
I had a long and heated discussion with my girls about being mean and disrespectful to each other. Nothing hurts my heart more than for them to be angry at each other. Don’t get me wrong, I am not naive enough to think they never argue because that is what siblings do, but I draw a line when it comes to being hurtful and two-faced to each other. What they really don’t understand at this point in their life is that they truly have a built-in best friend by having a sister, not to mention a twin sister. They share a bond that the majority of siblings don’t experience. However, they are the total complete opposite of each other, which causes major clashing at times. I may have made the mistake of wanting to bring peace to the situation, but I feel it is my duty as a Mom to make sure that they never forget to have each other’s back.
Friends, especially true friends, are so hard to come by and if you cannot find a best friend in your sister, then who can you trust to play that role in your life?
Growing up is such a stressful thing. We all know that. Learning to know the difference between who is your friend and who is the one who will pretend to be your friend only to instigate gossip is a challenge and can be a heartbreaking situation especially when that person is supposed to be your “friend.”
As the years go by, people change and their interests and goals begin to change and with those changes comes narrowing down the people who have your best interest at heart. As a kid, it is easy to just play with someone at the playground, chase each other around playing tag and just enjoy being young. The trouble comes during the teenage and adolescent years when trust and self-esteem and wanting to be accepted become much more important; therefore, learning who you can trust with your deepest, darkest secrets becomes much more of a learning process.
True friends are a rare find and not something to take for granted. I think we all have at least one; the ones who really love you and are there throughout every stage of your life. You may not see them or talk to them as much as you would like, but you know that if you need anything, you can turn to them. Trying to be a good friend is much harder as we get older and each have our own families and jobs and responsibilities. It doesn’t mean you don’t love them as much and miss the times when being together was mandatory, but you realize that as time goes on, life takes people in different directions. If you are lucky enough to have that kind of friend, don’t jeopardize your relationship by bickering over the little things…..focus on what you can do to be there for each other unconditionally.
Build each other up and be each other’s biggest fan. Know that without a doubt, you have someone in your corner at all times. Focus on forming a bond that cannot be broken. That is the joy of true friendship.